This is copied verbatim from bart_calendar. I think this is really, really brilliant and true for anyone who ever left a bad environment - work or personal.
Last week I got invited to a Facebook group composed of people who worked for the newspaper chain I used to work for 13 years ago before moving to France.
Big mistake. Massive bad feelings exploded on all sides. I was talking to my shrink about this last night.
"This happens to every expat eventually," she said. "Whether you realize it or not, expats always leave because the people around them have become toxic and don't share their values. Over time they forget that. Then when they try to go home or reconnect with the people from 'before' it always explodes. People don't become less toxic over time and because you've forgotten how toxic they are you aren't as prepared to deal with it as you were when you were in the situation. But, it's good when this happens, because it allows you to realize how far you've come and why. It's a part of moving on and making sure you don't go backwards with your life."
I guess I'll just be happy they've all forgotten about me LOL. The funny thing is, I was reading old work rants from the two years before I came here, and I look back and I think "how in the HELL did I put up with / survive / tolerate THAT?" over and over and over. I can't believe I didn't have a nervous breakdown, during that time.
Good thing I had LJ... you guys kept me sane!
Very good advice. This could apply to any place you've left behind. My high school class is planning a reunion this fall, so the FB page has become active. I've been added by a few people and I added them back. Now I realize why I left that town as soon as I graduate.