Bad: Yesterday I walked out of the house to see that I had a very flat tire.
Good: I was able to call AAA to come fix it.
Bad: A couple of years ago a woman who didn't understand that you have to STOP for flashing red lights on a school bus hit my bumper, denting it severely. This makes it impossible to remove the spare tire, since the tool to loosen it depends on the bumper not being severely dented.
Good: The AAA driver was able to remove the tailgate from my pickup and get to the spare tire that way, and change it.
Bad: When I took the tire to Les Schwab (non-western-US people: this is a chain of tire stores) for repairs, it was determined that a long bolt had ripped it so badly it could not be repaired, so I would have to buy a new tire (or two, since the other rear tire was about as worn as the now-dead one). Of course, this was not exactly something I had budgeted for. I had already been sitting there over an hour reading magazines by the time they delivered the news and no longer had time to wait another 45 minutes. Drove off annoyed.
Good: This morning I went back to Les Schwab and was able to get tires - not great ones, but tires, and ones I could almost, kind of, sort of afford.
Bad: The clerk at Les Schwab gave me printouts of other things my car needs, like brakes & shocks. If I didn't have money for tires, I sure as hell don't have money for those either. Left Les Schwab in somewhat anxious state.
Good: Today Gary went to visit a
Yes, I had to pay money I wasn't expecting to - but that seemed like a minor blip on the radar when I considered the many good things we have and the many bad things we don't have.
I worked at the welfare department for nearly 30 years... I can foresee the lives of all the people, and it isn't pretty.
We can probably get a bumper relatively inexpensively from a wrecking yard, so that's not really a problem. I just hadn't realized that it would make it impossible to retrieve the spare tire!
Well, when you're feeling something, all you can do is feel it! The thinking is for later, in my opinion.
I couldn't respond to your post about losing people a while back--too rushed to write--but I know those feelings, too. I always wind up at that same simple place--gotta love what you have and what you are now, because soon it won't be now.
Yes. Sometimes the Buddhism thought process kicks in and I can better handle things, but mostly I just rant & rave.
A couple of years ago we went to Amsterdam and rented an apartment from a Buddhist. I think we were talking about her son who lives in California - and then she said, "Yes, but we are here right now," which was a perfect thing to say to get us back into the moment.
It wasn't until Gary described the visit with this guy (I am leaving a great deal of detail out, but none of it was pretty) that I suddenly realized that even with various bad things happening, they were all temporary, and that this too shall pass, and that overall I have a pretty fine life.